How Much Alimony is Enough?

I suppose it depends on if you’re paying or receiving… But seriously, most people going through divorce know that some level of Spousal Support or Alimony is necessary, but have no idea how much or for how long. Attorneys are paid to advocate for their client. So, if you’re the payer, they’ll argue for the lowest number possible and if you’re the recipient, they’ll argue for the highest number possible. … Read More

Surviving Divorce Near Retirement

Have you heard the term gray divorce? Gray divorce refers to divorce between people over 50 and it’s on the rise. As we head into this new decade, we see one trend continuing: Baby Boomers are now divorcing at double the rate of the late 20th Century.  As life expectancy continues to increase, our attitudes about divorce continue to evolve.  And while the incidence of divorce is not increasing as quickly … Read More

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TOP 3 FINANCIAL STRATEGIES TO PLAN FOR YOUR DIVORCE

Divorce messes with your head. Believe me, I’ve seen it first-hand. The once smart, together person that you were turns into an emotional, brain-fogged, disorganized basket case. You try really hard to keep it together, but you know this will not go down as ‘the best of times.’ You want to sit down and get it together to plan your future but feel paralyzed … Read More

Funny Quotes about Divorce

They say laughter is the best medicine. And research shows that to be true. Here are some funny things people have said about divorce. Many of the quotes are from Zsa Zsa Gabor, who was famously married 9 times (7 divorces and 1 annulment). To be fair, she lived to be almost 100 years old so maybe that is not too many…

I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave … Read More

FINANCIAL DICTIONARY

Financial Dictionary

After a post-divorce client’s mortgage was paid off as part of her divorce settlement, I asked her what happened to the escrow funds. She didn’t know what I was talking about and I realized there are a lot of terms financial professionals use assuming others understand. Some of these terms may be familiar and others you may never have heard of.

GENERAL TERMS

ACCRUE: The ability of something to accumulate over time, most … Read More

Divorce Dictionary

Divorce Dictionary

I’ve been working with a group of Collaborative divorce professionals from different disciplines to put together an educational seminar about Divorce Options . Because we are attorneys, mediators, mental health professionals and financial professionals who all practice in the divorce arena, we all know a lot about divorce. However, some jargon is still unfamiliar to each of us. We agree that divorce jargon must be really confusing to those who’ve never been involved … Read More

Rain and Snow are going to come.

I started this series in the middle of a heat wave and here we are again in another heat wave. The subject of this blog was supposed to be about “Into each life a little rain must fall.” I wish some rain would fall on this 96°day. And when it finally does, I will be thankful for:

  • the heavenly smell after a rain shower
  • rainbows that accompany rain
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Improve your soil

Just as it is impossible to grow a beautiful garden in sand or clay, it is impossible to live a beautiful, rich life if you don’t give yourself the opportunity to grow. Start where you are, with what you have to work with, and then add to it.

To improve clay soil, you must add organic material and continue to add more as it decays. The organic matter adds nutrients to the … Read More

Use the right tools for the job

There are many tools you can use to have the most successful divorce. Just like you wouldn’t use a snow shovel to dig out a dandelion, you don’t have to fight it out in court to have the best divorce. (I found almost 300 results for “dandelion digger” on Amazon.)

When you and your soon to be ex (stbx) agree on most things, using an attorney who wants … Read More

Planning a successful garden is a lot like planning a successful Divorce.

One summer day several years ago I decided to rip out the bonsai bushes in my front yard. I didn’t know what I wanted to replace them – I just knew they had to go. (And you can see why.) So I  started hacking away. As soon as they were gone, I went to the garden center and bought a bunch of pretty, … Read More