Divorce Options I

My Collaborative divorce group is presenting Zoom classes about the various “Divorce Options” available in Colorado. Check out the schedule here.

While you may have heard of one or more of these ways to get a divorce, I’ll fill in the blanks below. If you are considering divorce, you are probably feeling stressed and overwhelmed. I usually feel more in control in any situation if I understand my … Read More

How to tell your spouse ‘I want a divorce’

"I want a divorce."

How do you tell your spouse, “I want a divorce”?  Half of the people going through a divorce will be on the receiving end of this message, but the other half are the bearers of this incredibly bad news.  Many people really blow it, so let’s start with what NOT to do!  You’re not sure how your spouse will react, especially if infidelity is involved, and … Read More

5 Priorities After Your Divorce Becomes Final

FINALLY! After an emotional roller coaster, you get your divorce decree, signed by the judge. You are now officially a single person again. Whew! You may celebrate, or you may mourn on that day, but stay focused, you’re not quite over the finish line. Even though it has been filed in court, you have to take the next steps to make sure the agreement is implemented. It doesn’t … Read More

Seven Divorce Don’ts

Avoiding the most common mistakes in divorce will help you to save both time and money and reduce stress as well. Understanding both the long-term & short-term impacts of settlement options will help you to make educated decisions. Those decisions will help you build a more secure future.

If you or someone you know is considering a divorce, knowing what NOT to do can be a big help. The least expensive and … Read More

How Much Alimony is Enough?

I suppose it depends on if you’re paying or receiving… But seriously, most people going through divorce know that some level of Spousal Support or Alimony is necessary, but have no idea how much or for how long. Attorneys are paid to advocate for their client. So, if you’re the payer, they’ll argue for the lowest number possible and if you’re the recipient, they’ll argue for the highest number possible. … Read More

Surviving Divorce Near Retirement

Have you heard the term gray divorce? Gray divorce refers to divorce between people over 50 and it’s on the rise. As we head into this new decade, we see one trend continuing: Baby Boomers are now divorcing at double the rate of the late 20th Century.  As life expectancy continues to increase, our attitudes about divorce continue to evolve.  And while the incidence of divorce is not increasing as quickly … Read More

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Divorce messes with your head. Believe me, I’ve seen it first-hand. The once smart, together person that you were turns into an emotional, brain-fogged, disorganized basket case. You try really hard to keep it together, but you know this will not go down as ‘the best of times.’ You want to sit down and get it together to plan your future but feel paralyzed … Read More

Funny Quotes about Divorce

They say laughter is the best medicine. And research shows that to be true. Here are some funny things people have said about divorce. Many of the quotes are from Zsa Zsa Gabor, who was famously married 9 times (7 divorces and 1 annulment). To be fair, she lived to be almost 100 years old so maybe that is not too many…

I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave … Read More


Financial Dictionary

After a post-divorce client’s mortgage was paid off as part of her divorce settlement, I asked her what happened to the escrow funds. She didn’t know what I was talking about and I realized there are a lot of terms financial professionals use assuming others understand. Some of these terms may be familiar and others you may never have heard of.


ACCRUE: The ability of something to accumulate over time, most … Read More