Category Archives: Collaborative Divorce

A Cautionary Tale

 

A colleague was working with a client who had quite a unique situation. The settlement agreement had Husband (H) paying an amount to Wife (W) to equalize the asset division. The CDFA® suggested a QDRO to transfer from H’s 401k to W’s 401k and then she would have been able to do a Roth conversion with little or no tax due, since she was already in a negative tax liability situation. … Read More

Do You Really Need a QDRO?

You’re in that final stretch of your divorce, you can see the finish line ahead. You’ve reached a settlement agreement with your spouse, just then, your attorney or mediator turns to you and says, “Now you need a QDRO and that’s going to cost more.” “What? Are you kidding? What the heck is a QDRO?”

The QDRO is that last hurdle in your race. Get used to the idea … Read More

How to Keep More of Your Money

As soon as you start thinking about divorce, you have a sickening, panic-inducing thought that you will lose half of your net worth. You wonder if it’s even worth it to consider leaving if you’re just going to end up broke and starving.

There are ways to make sure that your financial future is not doomed. First and foremost, be sure you have a financial advisor who specializes … Read More

Divorce Options II

My Collaborative divorce group is presenting Zoom classes about the various “Divorce Options” available in Colorado. Check out the schedule here.

You may not have heard of one or more of these divorce options. I’ll introduce the others. If you are considering divorce, you are probably feeling stressed and overwhelmed. I usually feel more in control in any situation if I understand my options.

The 4 Basic Divorce Options … Read More

Divorce Options I

My Collaborative divorce group is presenting Zoom classes about the various “Divorce Options” available in Colorado. Check out the schedule here.

While you may have heard of one or more of these ways to get a divorce, I’ll fill in the blanks below. If you are considering divorce, you are probably feeling stressed and overwhelmed. I usually feel more in control in any situation if I understand my options.… Read More

Funny Quotes about Divorce

They say laughter is the best medicine. And research shows that to be true. Here are some funny things people have said about divorce. Many of the quotes are from Zsa Zsa Gabor, who was famously married 9 times (7 divorces and 1 annulment). To be fair, she lived to be almost 100 years old so maybe that is not too many…

I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave … Read More

Divorce Dictionary

Divorce Dictionary

I’ve been working with a group of Collaborative divorce professionals from different disciplines to put together an educational seminar about Divorce Options . Because we are attorneys, mediators, mental health professionals and financial professionals who all practice in the divorce arena, we all know a lot about divorce. However, some jargon is still unfamiliar to each of us. We agree that divorce jargon must be really confusing to those who’ve never been involved … Read More

Rain and Snow are going to come.

I started this series in the middle of a heat wave and here we are again in another heat wave. The subject of this blog was supposed to be about “Into each life a little rain must fall.” I wish some rain would fall on this 96°day. And when it finally does, I will be thankful for:

  • the heavenly smell after a rain shower
  • rainbows that accompany rain
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