Category Archives: Mediation Support

A Cautionary Tale

 

A colleague was working with a client who had quite a unique situation. The settlement agreement had Husband (H) paying an amount to Wife (W) to equalize the asset division. The CDFA® suggested a QDRO to transfer from H’s 401k to W’s 401k and then she would have been able to do a Roth conversion with little or no tax due, since she was already in a negative tax liability situation. … Read More

Do You Really Need a QDRO?

You’re in that final stretch of your divorce, you can see the finish line ahead. You’ve reached a settlement agreement with your spouse, just then, your attorney or mediator turns to you and says, “Now you need a QDRO and that’s going to cost more.” “What? Are you kidding? What the heck is a QDRO?”

The QDRO is that last hurdle in your race. Get used to the idea … Read More

Divorce Options II

My Collaborative divorce group is presenting Zoom classes about the various “Divorce Options” available in Colorado. Check out the schedule here.

You may not have heard of one or more of these divorce options. I’ll introduce the others. If you are considering divorce, you are probably feeling stressed and overwhelmed. I usually feel more in control in any situation if I understand my options.

The 4 Basic Divorce Options … Read More

Divorce Options I

My Collaborative divorce group is presenting Zoom classes about the various “Divorce Options” available in Colorado. Check out the schedule here.

While you may have heard of one or more of these ways to get a divorce, I’ll fill in the blanks below. If you are considering divorce, you are probably feeling stressed and overwhelmed. I usually feel more in control in any situation if I understand my options.… Read More

How to tell your spouse ‘I want a divorce’

"I want a divorce."

How do you tell your spouse, “I want a divorce”?  Half of the people going through a divorce will be on the receiving end of this message, but the other half are the bearers of this incredibly bad news.  Many people really blow it, so let’s start with what NOT to do!  You’re not sure how your spouse will react, especially if infidelity is involved, and … Read More

Funny Quotes about Divorce

They say laughter is the best medicine. And research shows that to be true. Here are some funny things people have said about divorce. Many of the quotes are from Zsa Zsa Gabor, who was famously married 9 times (7 divorces and 1 annulment). To be fair, she lived to be almost 100 years old so maybe that is not too many…

I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave … Read More

Use the right tools for the job

There are many tools you can use to have the most successful divorce. Just like you wouldn’t use a snow shovel to dig out a dandelion, you don’t have to fight it out in court to have the best divorce. (I found almost 300 results for “dandelion digger” on Amazon.)

When you and your soon to be ex (stbx) agree on most things, using an attorney who wants … Read More