Category Archives: Divorce Financial Analysis


Divorce Options I

My Collaborative divorce group is presenting Zoom classes about the various “Divorce Options” available in Colorado. Check out the schedule here.

While you may have heard of one or more of these ways to get a divorce, I’ll fill in the blanks below. If you are considering divorce, you are probably feeling stressed and overwhelmed. I usually feel more in control in any situation if I understand my … Read More

How to tell your spouse ‘I want a divorce’

"I want a divorce."

How do you tell your spouse, “I want a divorce”?  Half of the people going through a divorce will be on the receiving end of this message, but the other half are the bearers of this incredibly bad news.  Many people really blow it, so let’s start with what NOT to do!  You’re not sure how your spouse will react, especially if infidelity is involved, and … Read More

How Much Alimony is Enough?

I suppose it depends on if you’re paying or receiving… But seriously, most people going through divorce know that some level of Spousal Support or Alimony is necessary, but have no idea how much or for how long. Attorneys are paid to advocate for their client. So, if you’re the payer, they’ll argue for the lowest number possible and if you’re the recipient, they’ll argue for the highest number possible. … Read More

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Divorce messes with your head. Believe me, I’ve seen it first-hand. The once smart, together person that you were turns into an emotional, brain-fogged, disorganized basket case. You try really hard to keep it together, but you know this will not go down as ‘the best of times.’ You want to sit down and get it together to plan your future but feel paralyzed … Read More

Funny Quotes about Divorce

They say laughter is the best medicine. And research shows that to be true. Here are some funny things people have said about divorce. Many of the quotes are from Zsa Zsa Gabor, who was famously married 9 times (7 divorces and 1 annulment). To be fair, she lived to be almost 100 years old so maybe that is not too many…

I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave … Read More


Financial Dictionary

After a post-divorce client’s mortgage was paid off as part of her divorce settlement, I asked her what happened to the escrow funds. She didn’t know what I was talking about and I realized there are a lot of terms financial professionals use assuming others understand. Some of these terms may be familiar and others you may never have heard of.


ACCRUE: The ability of something to accumulate over time, most … Read More

Divorce Dictionary

Divorce Dictionary

I’ve been working with a group of Collaborative divorce professionals from different disciplines to put together an educational seminar about Divorce Options . Because we are attorneys, mediators, mental health professionals and financial professionals who all practice in the divorce arena, we all know a lot about divorce. However, some jargon is still unfamiliar to each of us. We agree that divorce jargon must be really confusing to those who’ve never been involved … Read More

Rain and Snow are going to come.

I started this series in the middle of a heat wave and here we are again in another heat wave. The subject of this blog was supposed to be about “Into each life a little rain must fall.” I wish some rain would fall on this 96°day. And when it finally does, I will be thankful for:

  • the heavenly smell after a rain shower
  • rainbows that accompany rain
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Improve your soil

Just as it is impossible to grow a beautiful garden in sand or clay, it is impossible to live a beautiful, rich life if you don’t give yourself the opportunity to grow. Start where you are, with what you have to work with, and then add to it.

To improve clay soil, you must add organic material and continue to add more as it decays. The organic matter adds nutrients to the … Read More