Plan for the Best Divorce Possible

It’s Springtime in the Rockies – that means snow one day and 90° temps the next. When the days start to get longer, and the daffodils start to bloom I want to start working in my garden. While contemplating life, at the Denver Botanic Gardens last week, I thought about the similarities between divorce and gardening.  No really, hear me out…

For planning a successful divorce as in planning a successful garden:
  • Begin with the End in Mind – A beautiful garden has a lot of planning behind it. When contemplating divorce, some planning will really pay off. See the resources at
  • Use the right tool for the job. You don’t use a snow shovel to dig out dandelions. In the same vein, figure out what kind of divorce you want to have and assemble the right tools. Attend a Divorce Options educational seminar and you can find the best date, time and location here:
  • Improve the soil, to get the best from your garden. Give yourself the best opportunity for success post-divorce by working on yourself. Self-improvement materials come in many forms; listen to audio books, watch Ted Talks or read helpful books.
  • Snow and rain are inevitable and so is sun. You can’t grow anything without both rain and sun. Your life is the same. You will get past the bad weather and the sun will shine on you again.
  • Sometimes it is necessary to divide plants that have grown past their space constraints or to remove invasive plants that are taking over.
  • Educate yourself for the task at hand
    • Stop beating yourself up about not being able to grow a Magnolia in your backyard in Colorado. Find the right plant for your garden.
    • Find out what tools are available for having the best divorce possible, and then you can go on and live happily ever after.


About the author:

Bev Banfield is a CPA, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, and founder of Banfield Divorce Financial Advisors. The Denver-based company was established to help divorcing couples more easily and equitably separate their finances. Banfield has more than 30 years of experience in financial analysis, budgeting, and auditing. Contact us for more information at (303) 482-1726 or Connect with me on LinkedIn